There are memories we own that we’d rather erase, occurrences that make us cringe. Usually we don’t share these with others because we cannot believe they’ve happened nor that we are responsible for them.
What can we do then?
I learned a long time ago that we shouldn’t regret. At the time we did what we did, we were making a decision based on the moment. Good or bad, if presented with the situation again as it was, we would probably repeat it.
Here’s what the take-away is…now you know better so now you’ll do better. Every time a situation like that one presents itself now, you will do better because, at one time, you did not. Give yourself credit for learning a lesson and move past it.
Now the big thing…that mistake does not define you. It is not who you are. If you allow your mistakes to define you, what does that say about you? I’m telling you right now, you are not a mistake – you are precious and you are important and you matter.
So while we hang on to our mistakes like Gollum in Lord of the Rings, stroking them and hissing “Precious!”, we are so sadly motivated. What we should be doing is saying – “Done! Past! Be Gone!” because it’s behind us. Replace those thoughts of failure with memories of victories. I know you’ve had those.
What things have you done that make you proud of your actions? What are you doing that is purposeful and important? Dwell on the good. Dwell on the positive. I’m not telling you to be boastful or prideful, but give yourself credit where credit is due.
Allow those to be the things that define you.