Many of us spend our lives in the pursuit of perfection. Perfect body, perfect soul, perfect mind, perfect life. The problem is – unless you are the Son of God – perfection is impossible.
In the mind of the public consciousness, perfection equals completeness.
The good news is, there are many ways to achieve completeness and none of them have to do with what other people think of you. Being complete, in my opinion, means being content with what you have…what you are…who you are at this very moment.
We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. We imagine their lives as perfection. The truth is that they, also, are struggling – they’re just better at hiding it. People only show you what they want you to see – the problems they are having are not something they will likely reveal to you.
In my life, I have known some pretty wealthy people. While they were also very generous and kind people, some of them were some of the unhappiest people I’ve ever known. What they taught me was that wealth isn’t necessarily equal to happiness nor perfection. Sometime wealth is just one less thing to worry about in life. It doesn’t solve every problem.
I had a wonderful friend named Bob. He was one of those people that I most admired and loved dearly. Bob was a wonderful boss, brother, son and friend. Bob was very wealthy in the worldly sense, yet he was unhappy. A few years ago he took his own life. People were shocked. “But he had everything, what on earth was wrong?” “I can’t imagine what could have caused this – he seemed so happy and fulfilled.” But he wasn’t any of those things – he was suffering.
I would ask you to think carefully the next time you assume that someone has a perfect life in comparison to yours. My guess is that several of them would trade with you today.
To them, you are living the perfect life, the complete life. Don’t waste it thinking that you are incomplete in some way – enjoy who you are, what you have, and what’s to come tomorrow. For some, tomorrow will never be.
You are perfect just the way you are.