How do I change the things about myself that I’ve tried and tried and tried to change in the past?
While attending a class about nutrition, the leader, Lauren, spoke about a book called “Switch (How to change things when change is hard)” by Chip & Dan Heath. She said that everyone should read this book. Not just those who are trying to lose weight, but everyone.
Ok. I don’t know about you, but as an avid reader, whenever I hear this statement I take it as a challenge. (With the exception of “50 Shades of Grey” which will never take up any of my brain cells, thank you.)
The premise is this…we each have both a rational side and an emotional side which means our brains are not “of one mind”. No wonder we struggle so, eh? The authors use an Elephant to illustrate the side of our brain which strives to progress toward a goal and has “tons” of energy. They use the Rider as the analytical side of the brain which over-analyzes, over-thinks and does so with drama – however; it also gives us planning and direction. Bottom line, we need both sides, but need to get them to work together to achieve our goals…to flip the switch.
If you reach the Rider but not the Elephant, you will end up with understanding without motivation. (“I understand that I need to lose weight, find a new job, get out of a bad relationship, stop smoking…”) If you reach the Elephant but not the Rider, you’ll have tons of passion but no direction. (“I will lose weight this time no matter what – not sure how, but I’m going to do it this time!!!)
Self-control is an exhaustible resource. What looks like laziness is often exhaustion.
One bonus – this book is available on line in PDF form for no cost. Google it.
This is a book everyone should read. Gauntlet thrown.